When friends collide...

And how does it start?

She asks me for reference to buy breed dogs for her friend. I tell her to inform them that better than getting breed dogs, is to adopt from the shelter. Yet I still give her a couple of references.  To emphasize my point, I put up a picture that displays how breeds are forced to mate, in order to sell their offsprings, fueled by the demand of customers.

She puts in a cheeky reply, that she herself does not have breeds, while others (me) have Daschunds and Labs! Point!

My reply is straight forward – that the picture was actually meant for others, who keeping insisting on only breeds and about my dogs, not only are they mixed breeds, but also rescued from houses that didn’t want them!

She actually takes offense to my reply, tells me not to spam her wall and basically gives me the finger! The IGNORE STAGE of course starts off, with no reply to any of my attempts to hail her.

Ok, I’ve been through that before! But like all things mysterious, the question remains – why?

Friends for a few years now, there for each other, she’s a good friend, kind at heart, energetic and warm in her own ways.  Yet she comes with the claim that only bad things happen to her, that everybody is bad to her, starting from family, relatives, all the way down to close friends too, that, somehow suspiciously along the way, have become bad to her!

Of course, this is not the first time I was at the receiving end. Once during a particular tough time for her, she had disappeared. And when I tried to check up on her, she got furious, saying I didn’t understand what she was going through and, to put it mildly, was disturbing her. Of course, the IGNORE STAGE was there for a few months. It took time, a lot of apologies from both sides and it was back to talking terms.

Well, the question remains – why? I fail to see that on one hand – the entire world seems to be against her,  everybody is finding fault with her thus leading to her unhappiness and mental trauma, then on the other hand – I too suddenly fall into that category, when I least expect it!

She gets angry with every small thing and we should be ok with it. We get angry and put up a point but she can’t take it, ignoring and blocking anybody who gets in her way or who crosses her!  Of course the status messages of “My life, my rules!”, “Be Good or buzz off”. “ Don’t trust anybody, cause they all screw you in the end”, etc, seem to be the rants directed to… heaven knows! The little kitchen rat disturbing her? The pussy cat meowing outside her window? Me? The girl across the street who she knew? That guy who’s bike she is so fascinated about? That bus no. 19 driver who didn’t give way to her?!

Of course, she has like a million friends, and keeps making & adding them by the dozens – so UNFRIENDING one is no biggie for her, there are many more in the cooking pot. Forget the fact that the unfriended friends are the few friends who would do anything for her, who care about her wellbeing!

Well lady, its your life, its how you want to live by it. Life by itself is pretty short, so getting angry, ignoring people, going with the ego flow, allowing all that mental torture to seep into and eat your brains, giving you heart burn – all seems to be such a waste of time isn’t it? But since you feel differently and don’t want to change, well – don’t then.

And hey – you know what? Living your life forever on your phone, through your social media actually does wonders for you. Sitting crouched, like the Hunchback of Notre Dame, checking all and sundry – its all good to check peoples profile, update stuff, check online merchandise, check Instagram, works out just fine to keep you happy!

But to make time and talk over things with others becomes a chore in itself – again why?    

-          I have to meet that person

-          I need to have bath (that lasts for 2 hours)

-          I have to get home

-          Its going to rain

-          Am going for a ride

-          Have to go and buy stuff

-          And of course, many more….

Hey, am seriously guessing that this would be too lengthy to read, ‘cause you, of course have better things to do & better friends to spend time with! So ok, you do what you have to do! In the meantime, I’ll see that if I try harder like you and put this up on social media, then it would be interesting to see what the response will be like?!